Reflections: “Ask For It” by Linda Babcock and …. -finish post and reading book

Wow. Is all I can say. This will be a permanent fixture on my book shelf.

 

GRE Studying

This has been my life the last few months. I am just starting to feel comfortable with it. Now, I need to make that second push to get my score in the range I want.

 

MIA

Sorry. I have been busy moving which is why my blog has been dead. I am still dedicated to going to Bschool. I just need to get my schedule back to normal. Hopefully by the end of the week I will be back on track.

 

Gender Roles

As I get older, this is something that is becoming more and more important to me. Perhaps educated in predominately female environments for the last 8 years has something to do with the way I feel. I am just finding the older I get that people that I thought were open minded about womens role in the household are not as open as I would have liked. My own mother is on this whole settle down thing right now. It is rather alarming. Maybe, I am just learning how the world really is and I should accept it. I am guessing the work place will be like this as well. I need to get use to it and not freak out every time does not think the way I do about women and what the can do with their lives. I think I just need to take note and keep being the best version of myself.

 

Reflections: “In Defense of Food”

-Made me change my mind about a nutraceitcal or cosmoceutical startup…because i dont want to dupe people….I truly want people to be healthy by eating whole foods

-interesting though about the americanization of food to promote american culture/identity and help immigrants lose theirs since food is a strong part of culture/identity

-realized I do not have a real food culture other than american and maybe with a hint of southern US/book made me want to check out historical diets from where my family came from

-plan on drinking wine with every meal or once a day

-going to try to eat at a table with people more frequently

-i will try to cook more and plan a garden

-eat slow

 

Reflections: Nice Girls Don’t Get Rich

Some brief take aways from this book.

-Meet w/financial adviser once a year

-don’t give away my free time

-have a sense of entitlement about $ and work

-schedule vacations a year in advance

-check out ambest for stable insurers

 

Realization: I need to chill out!

I realized thanks to Randy’s rejoinder to my last post that I need to chill out. I came to discern that I am trying to run a marathon by sprinting the whole way. Clearly, this not feasible. I am so accustomed to getting results expeditiously that when a goal of mine requires scrutiny and diligence than usual,  I am in a state of disarray. I am in a frenzy and drawn when I should really just be in a state of repose. All I can do is be best me I can be every day.  I need not freak out if I do not accomplish my goals within an unrealistic time frame.  Lesson for this week: Chill out!

 

Struggling

I decided to open up a bit more and be honest about my struggles. I am having a hard time managing paying down my bills and at the same time saving up money to go back to school in addition to studying for the GRE/GMAT. The studying process is time consuming. I feel like I need to devote a 110% to my studies. However, how can I do this when I feel like I need to devote 110% to paying down my debt. The bills are just piling up and I am not going to make any more money sooner. Ugh. I have to kill these standarized tests. At least then, I can tutor for extra money and also get into the schools of my choice. My priorities right now are studying first and finances second but I hope this does not backfire and I can stay afloat long enough. I hope I make it through these hard times.

 

Reflections: “Stop Sabatoging Your Career” by Lois P. Frankel

This book is great. Some take aways from me were.

• Make declaritive statements
• Do not apoligize
• Do not ask for permission
• Use “I” statements
• Check myself in the mirror before presentations(I know this is obvious-just a reminder though)
• Read books about body language

Some other things to think about.

What do I want people to say about me after an interview or in general?

The answer to this question is what I need to strive for every day.

Make one sentence that is your brand statement.

I add value by ….  (answer should include 3-5 measurable skills of yours)

I need to let other people know my brand and get feedback. Make sure I go the extra mile.

 

You Achieve What You Focus On

This statement is so true. I have been working hard in other areas in my life but I stopped focusing on my finances all together and I am having a major setback now. I learned that I always need to focus on my finances no matter what the circumstances. It is hard for me to focus even when I have a windfall. I spent some unexpected money on going out to eat too much and just bought things I should have waited to buy. I did not put money in my EF like I should have and I know this is going to come back to haunt me. I have to get back on track! I really have to pay off my non student loan debt asap to help me clear away money for grad school. It is going to be hard getting back into thr right financial mindset.